One of the constant battles of working full time as a parent is missing out on the small moments that make up each day. Holidays have a way of enlarging these small moments, leaving parents to feel inadequate. What do I mean by small moments? You might miss out on the costume party at school. Chances are, you won’t be able to cross off all the items on your family’s fall bucket list. But that doesn’t mean you can’t sneak in the best parts of the holiday when it counts.
Take it from me–a working mom who loves both of her jobs, it is possible. All it takes is the right mindset and a willingness to let the perfectionist in you slip away.
Halloween is right around the corner. While this list may differ for you and your family, the strategy behind the list can remain the same. Choose the activities that your family loves the most. Focus on quality time. And above all, have fun! I’m willing to bet that it doesn’t matter what activity your family decides to do; what matters is the memories, the love, and the laughter that is shared during that time together.
Here’s my list. It’s spooky, it’s fun, and it allows me to celebrate this festive holiday with my family without making crazy sacrifices!
- Decorate the House
What better way to spend a Saturday afternoon than digging out the spooky decorations and letting your kids help you transform your house into a ghoulish destination? I love this activity because the memory extends far beyond the time it takes us to hang a few cobwebs and stick on the pumpkin adhesive. Each day leading up to Halloween, you and your family will wake up to a house that screams “Halloween!”
- Pick Your Pumpkin Poison
Each family has their own traditions when it comes to pumpkins. Choose your mark and stick to it! While it may seem ideal to tackle all of the projects: picking, carving, painting, roasting, etc., it may not be realistic! Remember, as the parent, you’re the guide. Set the rules, prepare the supplies, and let your kids go wild.
- Trick Your Senses
I love a cozy house. And there’s nothing cozier than an apple pie baking in the oven. Unfortunately, pie baking days are rare. But that doesn’t mean you can’t invoke the same sort of feel in your home! My go-to cozy trick? Heat 2-3 tablespoons of cinnamon and 1 cup water in a small pot on the stove. Before you know it, your home will smell like the warmth of the season. This is a great way to add that cozy character while your kids are doing homework in the evening.
- Hold Fast on Trick or Treat Traditions
If you’re like my family, you’ve adopted certain traditions when it comes to the actual night of trick or treating. Hold fast to these events! These will be the memories that your children remember! Maybe you pose outside on the porch each year. Maybe you visit that one neighborhood that always hands out the best candy bars. If you’re brave, you might even enact a free-for-all candy buffet that night (Just kidding, no parent is that brave.)
The point is, your traditions are special. Make new ones. Keep the old. Your family’s foundation is being built on these very same events.